Shepherding Ch. 9: Emracing Biblical Methods – Types of Communication

December 11, 2007

22188961.jpgIn this chapter of Tedd Tripp’s book on parenting, he states:

“We often reduce parenting to these three elements: rules, correction, punishment. You give your children rules. The correction phase comes into play when they break the rules. In the punishment phase you announce the consequence they will receive for breaking the rules.

However, Tripp states, there is more to communication then these three phases. He lists the following attributes as part of essential communication needed while shepherding your children:

1. Encouragement – “Your children know the pain of failure. You can help them assess the reasons for disappointment. You need to help them understand the promises of God. You can encourage them to find courage, hope and inspiration from God, who draws near to the brokenhearted and contrite.” (Tripp, 82).

2. Correction – “Correction remedies something wrong. Correction gives your children insight into what is wrong and what may be done to correct the problem. Correction helps your children to understand God’s standard and teaches them to assess their behavior against that standard.” (Tripp, 82).

3. Rebuke – “A rebuke censures behavior. Sometimes children must experience your sens of alarm, shock, and dismay at what he has done or said.” (Tripp, 83).

4. Entreaty – “This is communication that is earnest and intense. It is the earnest pleading of a father or mother who, understanding his child, the ways of God, and the extremity of the moment, is willing to bare his soul in earnest pleading for his child to act in wisdom and faith.” (Tripp, 83).

5. Instruction – “The process of providing a lesson, a precept, or information that will help your children to understand their world. They need to understand the world of spiritual reality and the principles of the Kingdom of God.” (Tripp, 84).

6. Warning – “Your children’s lives are fraught with danger. Warnings put us on guard regarding a probable danger. A warning is merciful speech, for it is the equivalent of posting a sign informing motorists about a bridge that is out. Warning preserves.” (Tripp, 85).

7. Teaching – “Teaching is the process of imparting knowledge. Teaching is causing someone to know something. As a godly parent, you have much to impart.” (Tripp, 87).

8. Prayer – “Prayer…is the essential element of communication between the parent and the child. Our most penetrating insights into our children will often come as they pray.” (Tripp, 87).

Questions to ponder:

– Of the types of communication mentioned, at which ones are you most proficient?

– At which types are you least proficient?


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